Friday, December 28, 2007

My Mother.... Moja Mama ....

I was nine months old when my mother sent my father to the United States for an extra income. He was gone for a year. Even though we lived in Communist Poland, she dreamt about French laced dresses and a designer German nursery for me. She wanted to set aside money for my education at the Sorbonne or Oxford. She had great plans for our future and envisioned a better life.

I was Fifi's age, when she bundled me up in the midst of Poland's harsh winter and pushed me through the city and waited in line, with her ration tickets, for meat and bread. She waited in long lines right after lunch in order to secure our dinner for the same evening. She did this every other day for the years we lived in Poland.

My father returned on a Sunday and my sister was conceived on a Monday. My mother kept the money my father sent and single handling changed our future. She wanted to be in America. Many people were fleeing to England, South Africa, Germany, Argentina around us but my mother felt strongly about America.

With pregnancy hormones raging she announced that once her second child was born we would be escaping the only country she has ever know. Her language. Her family. Her culture. Her everything would be left behind for our future ahead.

When my sister was born the plans were made. We would stay in Austria and wait for our visas. One summer night, my mother dressed my infant sister and me up in layers upon layers of clothes and shoved us in the back of their Fiat. Luggage would be too suspicious at the border, for the borders were frozen and people only allowed to leave for a day.

I can't imagine what my mom must have been thinking as we drove away from her beloved Poland that night. I can't imagine that she slept that night, as she held her two girls in her arms in the back seat of the Fiat. I can't imagine how she felt leaving behind an apartment full of material possessions, a family full of people she loved, and a culture that she was born into and familiar with.

Mama. Kochana Mamusia. You are the most amazing woman. An incredible mother. A wonderfully compassionate friend.

I love you.

Even when you sent me to the first grade in Chicago with toilet paper instead of the "tissue paper" the class list advised.

Even when you sent me to junior high with a goose liver sandwich that smelled up the entire cafeteria.

Even though you called my high school on Senior Ditch day during each class period to check my attendance because you couldn't understand that American kids actually ditched school.

Your tears and sweat created a legacy. I wish to be half the mother that you are and would be so proud of the job that I have done. Mamusia... Happy Birthday! I love you so much Mama.

Thursday, December 27, 2007

Another day, another accident

We have been accident free for a little over then one month. It has been a blissful month free of trips to the ER, no 9-1-1 calls since November, and no emergency doctor visits either. It has been a good month.

This morning I exited the bath, wrapped in a skimpy towel, and entered my parent's guest room to dress myself for the day. Lola skipped through the door and claimed she was a baby. "Call me baby Lola, Mama." I played along and placed her in Fifi's crib and managed to moisturize one of my legs with the new fancy lotion I received on Christmas.

Lola stood up in Fifi's crib and the crib on wheels, probably Made in China, rolled away from the wall and Lola fell backwards onto her head.

I ran to her, just a few feet away, and swept her into my arms. "BREATH. BREATH. LOLA take a breath!!!!" I screamed, very aware of what has happened to her in the past. Lola has holding breath syndrome and although it is not life threatening it is very scary for the parent holding a lifeless child.

Lola is stiff in my arms. Not breathing. She bends her head back. I only see the whites of her eyes. She starts to tremble. "BREATH. BREATH. BREATH." I yell at her gently pushing aside her blond locks and staring into the whites of her eyes. "BREEEEEAAAAATHHHHH!!" I am running down the stairs trying to find my mother. I am trying to get her to breath. She is shaking and so stiff. She feels like a log. I am holding my lifeless daughter in my arms. I think about calling 9-1-1, but wait. "BRRRRRREEEEATHHHHHHHHHHH. Lola. Come on. Breath!" I lay her on my mother's bed and shake her head a little and she begins to cry.

I am with Lola for an hour. I observe her. She is pale. She denies a lollipop. She is tired. She denies PEZ candy. She is pale. She vomits. "Mom, I am going to the ER." I look at my Mom and she nods and gathers up the other two kids.

Lola and I drive to the ER and Lola drifts in and out of sleep. I try to keep her up. I pray to God for him to take my arm, or leg, or my life just to keep her safe. I think about her bleeding internally. "Stay awake, Lola. My sweet Lola... stay awake... let's go to Target and buy a Barbie movie." I think about her being ill forever. I think about... everything and try to do anything to keep her awake. "Stay awake.... I will buy you some more candy."

We arrive. The nurse checks her over initially in the waiting room. Her vitals are fine. They give us room number 4 and we make ourselves comfortable. They let her sleep a little, administer some other tests, she sleeps some more, and they send in more tests. We are sent down to the basement of the hospital for a scan. I am holding her hand as we make our way through the catacombs of the basement and she says, "When we are done, you remember, you said you will buy me a Barbie movie." I exhaled a little, that was my first sign from above that she would be okay.

After hours of waiting. Hours of tests. Hours of wondering if my life will ever be the same. The results from the scan come back to show she is fine and suffered a mild concussion. Lola received an orange Popsicle. They schooled me on what symptoms I should look for today and the diet she should follow for the next 24 hours.

We were allowed to leave and I drove to the nearest Target. We entered. She vomited the orange Popsicle. We came home with some Tylenol, pretzels, a new Barbie movie, and some very dirty clothes. She vomited some more.

Tonight I will be praying for the same things: a happy and healthy family. However, I think I will add an addendum tonight... and ask God for a life full of uneventful days. I hope he gets our memo tonight.

Uneventful days are good days.

Wednesday, December 26, 2007

Winds, wiggles, and wipes...

The actual trip to Chicago, for Christmas, was thankfully quite un-eventful. Six hours with three kids in one car proved to be pleasant. On the other hand, the physical arrival to Chicago was eventful.

We were greeted by 35 mph winds and flurries. Still safe inside our entry level Honda minivan I bundled up the kiddos and prepared them to run from the car to my parent's front door. They were so eager to get inside after patiently being in the car for over 6 hours. I watched Jay dash to the front door. Locked. "Ring the doorbell, Jay!!!" I yell. My voice is no match for the howling wind. I watch the door open, Jay falls through the entry way, propelled by the wind, falling onto my brother's feet. One kid safe inside.

I wrap the baby up and hold Lola's hand as we dash to safety. Happily inside we greet my brother and begin to shed ourselves from the layers of clothes. The kiddos begin to run around chasing the coolest uncle ever. I watch my husband begin to unload the car. The bags of presents. The gifts. More bags of presents. The wind. The flurries. My parents live a block away from Lake Michigan and the windy city was living up to it's name.

"Husband. It is freezing. Get inside! My parents are gone and the Uncle is leaving. Pull the minivan into the garage and close the door. It will be so much warmer to unload the car." I advise my husband.

"Okay." The husband goes outside, hops into the car, and pulls it into the garage." I smile at my brilliant idea and go back to watching the kids bounce off the walls with excitement.

I hear the door slam. "Son of a .... GET OVER HERE!!!" Sensing some serious trouble, I place Fifi upon my hip, and walk over to the garage. "I locked the keys in the car." My husband announces.

"Oh, man! Are you serious? Everything is in there. The formula, the diapers, the clothes, everything BUT the Christmas presents." I exclaim. The husband grabs a hanger and attempts to wiggle it around like an amateur. "Call the police." I adivise him again, surrounded by a mountuian of presents.

"You call." He is seriously pissed and now uttering two word sentences. "Call now." He wiggles the hanger some more.

I walk over to the phone and place the call and am immediately put on hold. I look at Fifi's eyes and watch her grunt a little. "Hello? Hello! We have a mini emergency. We just arrived from Ohio and we locked our keys in the car." Fifi grunts some more. After some time on hold, the operator informs me that since it is the day before Christmas Eve, and a Sunday evening, no one can help us. More grunting on Fifi's part.

"Police are busy. They gave me a list of tow truck companies." I peek inside the garage to see the hanger on the floor and my husband jumping on top of it.

"Call them." He whispers.

Fifi grunts some more. I settle the kids down in front of the TV and grab the list of numbers. The first company has a 2 to 3 hour wait. The second company has a 1 to 2 hour wait. I give them my parent's address and swing Fifi to my other hip, because the hip she was just on is strangely warm. Very warm. And the smell. What is that smell? I smell my shirt. Smells like... kupa.

I run to my parent's master bedroom and undress her. This is the real deal. A ten wipe job for sure. Except, we have no wipes. No diapers. No change of clothes. I start running the bath after noticing that her diaper failed once again and the kupa exploded and managed to reach her back. Her onsie was not salvageable. Trying to get her out of it just increased the amount of kupa that I was spreading over her back, arms, and shoulders. "PICKLES!!!" I yell out loud. I took a picture of her and sent out my first phone photo message to my best friend "Need diapers size 4 and wipes." I place her under the spout and let the force of the water clean most of the kupa off. I then use my hand to clean her of the rest, and wrap her body in a towel.

I peek into the garage and explain the story to the husband. "That sucks." He is still seriously angry.

My best friend arrives some time after to save the day. She even upgrades our diapers to Pampers. Pampers. The real deal. (Your thank you card is on its way). Maybe Pampers won't leak?

The tow truck guy arrives a couple minutes after her. He wiggles "his" hanger around once and opens the door. He charges $65.00 per wiggle.

My parents arrive some time after the tow truck wiggler. And suddenly, with family around and worries behind, it starts to feel a little bit like Christmas.

Christmas was un-eventful and perfect. We are in Chicago for another week and praying for more un-eventful, peaceful, and perfect days.

Friday, December 21, 2007

Christmas Roundup...

I finally, after 5 weeks of carols, listened to the entire BNL song without crying. This is my all time favorite Christmas song, EVER. I usually loose it when I hear Sarah’s voice. My kids now sing along with me…. “Ohhhh, star of wonder… star of night…. Star of royal beauty bright….. Westward leading, still proceeding … Guide us like perfect light…”
http://www.christmas-tree.ca/music/gentlemen.html

Seriously, it doesn’t get better then that. Go ahead and listen.

We woke up Thursday morning and low and behold… there we (Lola and I) are on the front page of the “Community Life” section of our newspaper. Again. She has been in the paper three times. The last time I was in the paper was 6 weeks after giving birth to Fifi. I still looked pregnant. It was a cruel joke. Glass of wine in my hand, talking to a dear friend, maternity jean panel peeking out… on the front page of the METRO section. Sweetness. This time around I look somewhat presentable, check out Fifi in the stroller crying and searching for a pacifier.

My son will not allow me to open the gift he made me in preschool. Until Christmas Day. "If you open it now, you will be sad on Christmas when you see no presents for you, Mama." It is the only gift I really want to open. Today. Now. He is in school right now.... maybe I will sneak a peek while he is gone.

I have had it with mentioning Santa’s name in threat. It. Doesn’t. Work. The last time I threatened my children with the notion that Santa will bring them ZERO gifts, Fifi looked up at me and said, “Ba, ba, ba, ba.” Jay started crying hysterically, not using any words, and ran away. Lola shrugged her shoulders smirked and said, “That is not a problem to me. I can make my own presents. I don’t need a Santa.” I was, for once, speechless.

Merry Christmas.

Thursday, December 20, 2007

My son, the man...

Jay spent the morning at a friend's house. He was so sad to see me arrive when the playdate ended. In the car I drilled him... what did he play with, what did they eat, what did they do? Talking to my five year old son feels like an interview whereas talking to my three year old daughter is a breeze, she doesn't stop. So, after my interview was over I asked him...

"Who is a better mommy? Me or Alex's mom?" As soon as I uttered the words I wanted them back. Did I really just ask him that, for fun?

"Oh. Alex's mom was way better then you." Jay replies without a moment's hestiation.

"Really?" I slouch and frown out loud. Parenting was way more rewarding when they couldn't speak.

"Yes. TOTALLY. She made rice krispie treats for us." He explains.

Oh. I get it. I forgot. My son is a man. And everyone know that the way to a man's heart is through his tummy. I didn't realize that it started THIS early.

Sweet Dreams

My son, my first born child, the child who made me a mommy is now officially a sleepwalker. It is frightening.


Towards the end of the summer, the husband and I were watching Lifetime at night. I know, he is awesome. I asked him to lower the volume. The house is nearly silent. We concentrate on the sound. Trickling of water. The husband walks over to the sink and I go the opposite way and enter our foyer. I see Jay standing in the upstairs hallway, Pjs around his ankles, holding his manly hood, and aiming directly down at me. I run up the stairs and direct him toward the bathroom. He was speaking in tongues and was very disorientated. I scooped all 40 pounds of him in my arms and placed him in his bed.

About a week later, the husband and I finally joined the rest of the civilized world and ordered a movie from Netflix. We were enjoying our night together until we heard another sound. The husband walked over to the baby monitor and stared at it. I went the opposite direction and headed up the stairs. I opened up Jay’s door and saw him bent over the floor air vent. Again he was speaking in tongues and was very disorientated. He was sweating. A lot. I hugged him tightly, thinking it was a fever forming, and he made eye contact and spoke. “There is something in there. I hear voices. There is something down there and Lola is a bad girl.” I changed his Pjs and ushered him into bed.

Some time passed and the husband was watching a movie and I was reading some blogs late at night. I asked him to turn down the volume. Both of us walked upstairs to find Jay standing in the middle of his room. Disorientated… speaking tongues… sweating…. no fever. “She said no. I don’t know why. Do you see the shadows? Why do they say no? Lola is so bad to the shadows.” Again, I hug him tight. Change his Pjs and usher him into bed.

Now, Jay sleepwalks every other night . It usually happens an hour or two after falling asleep and it frightens me so. I haven’t googled sleepwalking yet. It makes me so sad to witness the fact that he has real nightmares… about Lola. Lola, the middle child, requires so much attention that at times it is exhausting. I think the reason behind his sleepwalking is.... Lola.

Wednesday, December 19, 2007

Postmaster, please deliver....

Dear Ms. Poopie Head at Walmart,

There is an entrance and an exit to each Walmart store. Both are clearly marked above the door in two languages. Why must you enter through the exit door?

Did you see me pushing my sleeping infant in her stroller? Did you see my two kiddos holding on safely on each side of the stroller? Did you see the bags upon bags of useless items I just purchased, hanging upon every available limb I have?

Why must you speed up and try to race me through the exit door? I will not be so mean as to mention your white trashiness. I am a compassionate woman and try to exchange a smile with you on this hectic shopping day.

Your trashiness was never the issue. Your attitude is the issue. Why must you frown? Are you having a bad day? I try to smile again. Why must you attempt to squeeze through the exit door as you are entering? Are you competitive in nature? Why must you knock over all the bags on my left side causing my extremely accident prone and clumsy Lola to take a spill on the horribly dirty, snow melted, salty encrusted Walmart floor? Why? Why must you snicker out loud to showcase your happiness? Your rude snicker shocked my children and woke up my very rarely napping child.

Would Princess Aurora ever enter through the exit door? Would Aurora ever snicker out loud after causing harm? Don’t you think she would have had the courtesy to help the child off of the floor? Wishing you a very Merry Christmas.

Warmly,
Never shopping at Walmart

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Dear Pompous sales guy at Coach,

I could have shopped online in my Pjs, sipping wine, making choices. But I wanted some real live help. I wanted to feel the purses. I wanted to talk to another human.

Instead, I got dolled up. I wore my cute Burch flats, and even cuter Hudsons that hug my poopcha, I flat ironed my fabulous hair, threw on my very smart Burberry coat, and even attempted to apply makeup to the best of my knowledge. I was going shopping. I was excited for some human contact and even some human conversation.

My girl heart told me to approach you, the only male, also dressed very smart. However, from the moment you opened your mouth I knew you were useless. Why must you act so pompous? Why must you be so incredibly arrogant? Do you work on commission? I am dressed to buy something, see how cute I look? I want something. I have cash in my pocket. See it?

Don’t tell me you “have nothing in THAT price range.” I was online. I know what you have. Don’t tell me that “all the teenage girls wear THIS $500 purse” because… um… they don’t. Don’t snicker and look away when I tell you my price range again. Even in our country $200.00 is a boat load of money and you MUST have a flipping purse for that amount. Yes, see that purse? That beautifully classic and smart baguette. I want that. Don’t tell me that “I believe THAT purse is not in your price range.” Because it is you, pompous head man that works at Coach. Give it to me and wrap it up.


Do you think that Belle, with her Southerly charm, would have made me feel so small? Don't you think Belle would have befriended me and helped me?

Go ahead and apologize. No? Go ahead. No? Give me that flipping beautiful baguette for my cousin. GIVE IT TO ME! You are so not getting any commission off of this sale. Have a very Merry Christmas too.

Warmly,
Only shopping on
www.coach.com

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Dear OHmommy,

You look like a poopie head.

That cold sore on your lip is multiplying and forming into a shape of a poopie. Why must your stress? You know from experience that stress brings on those horrible, not very classy, cold sores that hurt. Now you can’t kiss anyone for at least a week or wear any type of lip gloss. Christmas is in six days. You can't even go ten minutes without kissing one of the three kids. What are you going to do?

Why must you shop in stores and create unwanted stress? Do you think Snow White has cold sores? Probably not, she has porcelain skin. She has seven men that she lives with that take care of her and her skin.

Warmly,
OHmommy that should shop online


Tuesday, December 18, 2007

My middle child hears voices and they tell her what to do.

When Rose, my MIL, comes to visit she frequently brings gifts of food. Dark Chocolates. Fine pastries. Delicate Truffles. Interesting shaped pastas. The kids are fascinated and always on their toes with excitement with each gift. I, on the other hand, flip the product over to check the expiration date. The chocolate expired in October of 2005. The truffles were marked December of ‘06. The pasta expired when Lola was born. I smile, thank her, and secretly chuck the gifts. Loving, generous, and cheap.

This time Rose did good. She found an un-expired gingerbread nativity set. Where do your purchase such an item? I do not know. MIL-R-US, perhaps. Nevertheless, the kiddos had a wonderful time assembling this on our very first snow day of the season.
While Jay took his time reading the directions and examining the box for clues of how to construct, Lola was already half way done with decorating the baby Jesus.

“Lola, baby Jesus does not look like that on the box!” Jay holds the box up so that Lola can see what Jesus looks like.


“Jay, I am not finished with Jesus.” She is completely in her own world as she gives baby Jesus more and more fondant icing making him a very plump baby Jesus.


“LOLA. LOOOOOOOLA, look at this picture. See this? You are not following the directions.” Jay is getting more and more aggravated as Lola is not conforming to the picture of baby Jesus on the box.

“Jay. Sometimes I need to listen to my heart for directions.” Lola breaks her concentration and speaks. I look at her, gently push aside her blond wisps of hair, smell her glorious neck, and am convinced she is the next greatest philosopher to mankind.

“LOOK. LOOK AT THE BOX. Baby Jesus has eyes, an ear, and a mouth to whisper good things to you. YOU ARE DOING BABY JESUS ALL WRONG!!! You are DOING HIM WRONG.” Jay is screaming at Lola. I walk over to him and whisper in his ear, knowing that as the eldest child he loves to follow the rules, much like myself. I tell him that sometimes people do not have to follow the directions because their hearts have better plans for a better outcome.

Her outcome is not really so much better then the picture on the box, but she proudly says…

“Sometimes, and sometimes all of the time… my girl heart tells me the directions and I listen to my heart. And sometime my girl heart is just sleeping.” Lola looks at us as she gives baby Jesus another layer of icing and then moves onto the gingerbread camels.
And so dear friends. I am thankful to have three children and to celebrate their differences. I love that Jay, like myself, loves rules and feels comforted by directions. I love Lola, also like myself, loves to follow what her girl heart tells her. I am so blessed with a third child, whom is developing a personality as we speak (and sleeping 11 hours at night), and we can’t wait to learn more about her with each day.

Friday, December 14, 2007

What happened to all of my sick days?

To whom this may concern,

Give me a break. Why must every member of our family, except for our Dauschund, be sick? Today is Friday, the day I usually get some time off to relax. Now I have to tend to three sick children, a Christmas pageant at their school, lunch with the in laws, AND a sick husband with no pain threshold lying around the house. Seriously, just give me a break. I am sick too.

My head feels like it is stuck in a vice grip. My bones are tired and my muscles are weak. My body rested for a total of 3.5 hours last night. My nose is draining and someone has stolen all of my fancy tissues.

What happened to all of my personal sick days I accumilated from years of teaching? I need them today. I would like to ask for a childless and husbandless sick day.

Warmly,
OHmommy

PS. Yes, I will have my assignment entitled, "My 100 Things" completed ontime by Monday, as this is my 99th post.

I found the tissue.

NEWSFLASH: at 9:12 am E.S.T... Everyone including the Dauschund is sick. Now I have to scrub my carpet clean of his diarrhea.

Thursday, December 13, 2007

My middle Child

Lola was born a middle child. My brother visited us just days after she was born. While holding her for the first time he gazed into her eyes and joked, "Totally a middle child." We laughed it off. Years later, I know that as a middle child, she is a firecracker.

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I was trying on swimsuits for our upcoming family vacation. I tried on my old bikini. A tiny little cute swimsuit that was begging me to try it on. I exit the bathroom in my old suit. Lola looks at me, "That is not YOUR size." I let her know that in fact it is my size. It fits. "Well, your tummy doesn't fit in it. Everyone will look at your tummy." Great. I carried her for 9 months right under my heart and now at three years old she stabs me. Thanks.

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Recently my sister's dog passed away and when we were in Chicago last Lola noticed that ChiChi's bag of treats was still around. She looks up at my sister, whom is still grieving her loss, "You should return that bag. You should return it because the dog DIED. The store will give your money back." Sympathetic and Compassionate.

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The other day, Lola announced that she too will have three children when she is a mommy. Incredibly proud that she looked up to me, her mother I smiled and she continued, "But I don't want to take care of them, that would be boring. BORING! You can. I will be at Chucky E Cheese all the time." Ummm, may she wants a career at Chucky E Cheese? Ah ha... she wants to be a career woman. Okay.

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Just about everyday Jay and Lola plan their wedding together. Today Lola approached Jay and said, "I will marry you, I will, but you have to do all the things I want you to do! ALL OF THEM! If you don't listen to me I will marry Kyle or Ricky, or even Mike, or maybe Sam. But not you. So listen to me. Okay?" Bossy? Who does she get it from?

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Yesterday Lola had a modeling gig. The job was for the packaging of the Step 2 Easel for Two. The stylist prepared Lola for the shoot, we walked out into the studio, Lola looked at the dozen or so people on set and exclaimed, "I am so cute. Aren't I." Everyone giggled, for it was the perfect ice breaker. Arrogant? When did that happen?

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Monday, December 10, 2007

Will work for gifts...

Christmas Eve in our family is a big deal. The entire extended family gets together for an enormous feast that ends with a visit from Santa. We have several courses of traditional Polish meatless dishes and even more courses of family traditions.

We begin the meal by sharing our Christmas wafers with each member of the family. Even the littlest children hold onto their wafers and approach each person to bestow upon them their new year wishes. We say our prayers, finish our dinner, and wait for the first star of the evening.

We sing carols together in hopes that Santa will hear our voices and visit us. The little ones run around the house singing, peering out windows, and preparing for St. Nick. The adults decide who will change into the Santa costume and prepare all the gifts. We escort the "Santa" outside through the garage and the kids scream with nervous laughter when they hear a knock on the door.

Every year Santa visits us on Christmas Eve. Every year Santa gives presents to the children that have improved and learned something new in the last year. Last year, Lola spelled out her name for Santa, and he gave her a gift. Jay played a song on the piano for Santa, and was given a gift. My sister spoke in Wolof and was given a gift. Years ago, when I was in grade school, my siblings and I spent weeks perfecting our dance routine to "Everybody Dance Now." We were awesome.

With only 14 days left before Santa visits our family on our traditional Polish Christmas Eve the kiddos are preparing what they will show him. They have a couple of ideas and I wanted to add to them.

"How about singing a Polish song?" I ask Jay and Lola.

"No. I don't know how to talk Polish." Jay answers with a frown.

"But, I can teach you the words. There are so many beautiful Polish songs." I try to turn things around.

"I already know Polish songs." Lola jumps into the conversation with a smile. I wonder, did my mother teach her any songs? Has she been listening to the CDs I have been playing? It is possible. She picks things up rather quickly.

"Really? I would love to hear your Polish song Lola. Sing it to me." I ask her with admiration.

"I know POLISH. You know POLISH. We know POLISH. POLISH. POLISH. POLISH!" She sings in perfect melody.

I break out in giggles and it is contagious. We are so ready for you "Santa."

Thursday, December 06, 2007

My Christmas has changed ...

Or.... have children changed my Christmas?

They ran around the house searching for "presents" for every member of our family and friends. "Ahhh, we forgot about the librarian! She needs a present too!" They used last year's wrapping paper and loads of tape to wrap their "gifts." They used stickers to complete the final look. Wrapping presents took hours of concentration and this mommy will not be re-wrapping them anytime soon. It is the thought that counts. Yes? This year, every member of our family will be receiving presents that look like this.

Yes, you are welcome.

This year we have a "Mommy tree." Only Moms and Dads are allowed to touch the tree. The ornaments begin 1/2 way up the tree, about where the baby's arm reach ends when she is inside her walker. The tree smells amazing and so far nothing has broken. The ornaments are all hand crafted - mouth blown - priceless glass timepieces meant to be handed down for generations to come. Beautiful. Yes?

This year we also have a "Kiddos tree." Everybody can touch this artificial tree in our family room. In fact, this is a tree where the Care Bears live next to Darth Vader. Dora has become neighbors to a Transformer. This "kiddo tree" keeps collecting more and more "ornaments" each day. A new paper snow man is found taped to the middle - about the middle where Lola's reach ends. A beautiful decorated paper candy cane is taped near the top - definitely placed carefully by the first born. Ornaments from the first year of preschool given to parents as gifts. The kiddos first time on Santa's lap in a framed ornament. Paper snowflakes cut out with trembling first time scissor cutters. Beautiful. Yes?


I look at my two trees often throughout the day. I smile when I look under the tree and see a complete mess of wrapped gifts. Hideous tape wrapped and wrapped around the presents as liberally as ribbon. Years ago, I would have re-wrapped the gifts. Years ago, I would have had matching gift tags and bows. Years ago, I would have never included paper ornaments on my tree. Years ago, I swore that MY children would never watch Star Wars and the Care Bears. Years ago, I would have never blasted the volume as the Chipmunk's Christmas song came on the radio. Years ago, I had a list of material items I wanted for Christmas - and sent the list to others. Years ago, I was never this happy. Oh, how my Christmas has changed. Thank you children.

Tuesday, December 04, 2007

Public Apology

Dear Wesley,

I am sorry for calling you a "poopie-head" at our playdate. Here is a picture of you shooting some hoops. Maybe you can come over and shoot hoops with me. I will never call you a poopie-head again.

Jay

After yesterday's playdate we drew a picture, wrote a letter, and prepared it for mailing to Wesley's house. After writing his first letter of apology, Jay asked ... "now, can I write a letter of love to my other boyfriends?"

Monday, December 03, 2007

Would Aurora do that?

It was bedtime and the kids were racing to the bathroom, shedding their clothes along the way.

“My turn! I am going first!” Jay yells out knowing that competition infuriates Lola.

“No. No. I want to go first. I want to go shoe-shoe before you do.” Lola attempts to keep up with Jay as they are racing to the potty. Shoe-shoe is potty in Polish, that I understand. What I don’t understand is why they need to argue over one toilet in a house with four.

“Ha, ha, ha-ha, ha. I am going shoe-shoe first!” Jay sits on the toilet with a sly grin.

“MAMA!!!! MOM, mama, mommy!!!” Lola, already half undressed, cries out for some attention on the bathroom floor.

I ignore her cries, determined not to pay attention to her negative behavior. “MAMAMAMAMAMA.” I leave the bathroom and sweep Fifi off the floor to get her ready for bath. I re-enter the bathroom to find Jay still on the toilet and Lola popping a squat over the tiled floor. Yes. She. Was. Shoe-shoeing.

“Jesus, Mary, and Joseph. What are you doing?” I cry out in despair. “This is utterly disgusting! What are you doing?” She says nothing. Where did this child come from? My child. MY child. Seriously, why do these things happen to me? Where in the world did she get the idea that this was okay? MY CHILD! She was not there with me, behind the stage, at the Violet Femmes concert 1995. She did not see me behind the dumpster at Murphy’s Irish Pub on St. Patrick’s day. And she was definately not at the outdoor Paul Simon concert in 1999, while my Uncle Bill was covering his eyes. Hi, Uncle Bill. That was a good concert, wasn’t it?

“Would princess Aurora do that?” I ask, remembering an old blog I just read. Anytime her daughter displayed unacceptable behaviors she would question what would the princesses do. Brilliant!

“No.” Lola frowns.

“Do you think Snow White would shoe-shoe on the bathroom floor?” I ask again.

“No, she wouldn’t.” Lola answers with another frown. Boy, I am so good at this. I can see her understanding that what she did was simply unacceptable. So, I continue.

“How about Ariel, do you think she would?” I am beaming with pride as I ask her.

She thinks about it. I see a sly smile forming. “That’s funny, Mama. Ariel doesn’t have a shoe-shoenka. She has a fin. She only has a fin with no shoe-shoenka.”

What might work on other children of bloggers - really never does work for me.

 

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