Driving me (in)sane PDF Print E-mail
Written by OHmommy   
Tuesday, 03 November 2009 00:00

I cursed when I found out that our school district reconfigured our afternoon bus route in August, confining my two small children to the social graces of gigantic third-graders for well over an hour on the way home.  I shook with fear when I assumed the bus missed our stop with my precious cargo still inside.  I took matters in my own hands and voila my children were labeled as "pick-ups."  I was bitter.

 

It was a nightmare as I frequently ran late, either awakening my toddler from her nap or begging her to close her eyes in the car.  We spent more time together as mother with children inside the minivan than in our home.  Sad, I know; but the truth indeed, as everyone runs off to their corners of our massive abode upon arrival home.  The drama inside the van!  The whining!!  The arguing!!!  All while in 350 or so cubic square feet of an entry level cloth-interior Honda.  Fifty days later I realize it's like a blessing in disguise.  Every afternoon I observe my children interact with their peers while I wait in line, I glance in the rear view mirror to ask them about their day, and each day we transport ourselves far away from the country road home to a magical place.

 

"Look to the left, that empty field is like a meadow in Indiana.  If you look think hard enough you can almost see a group of cows grazing on grass.  Look.... "  Three heads turn to the left.

 

"On the right is a rest stop along the busy high way."  I point to the gas station on the way home from school.  "The parking lot is full of cars with different licence plates and people are rushing to their next destination.  Where are they going?"

 

"We are driving close to the train tracks.  Hold on tight!"  I smile as we go over the pot holes and the kids sit upright in their seats in tune with my imagination.

 

"Getting closer now, much closer to Chicago.  I can see enormous buildings scrapping the sky and reaching the clouds."  I point out how the hundred-year-old trees stand tall in the forest resembling a jungle of city buildings.

 

 

And so on. My tall tales capture their imaginations and temporarily silence their cries of boredom.  Yesterday the mundane ride home turned into a re-cap of our adventures in Poland.  Each house became an apartment complex and the sprawling estate on the corner of a nearby street became the Malbork castle.  The week before, Lola took center stage imagining that the bridge over the shallow country river was in-fact the bridge into Manhattan and suddenly my minivan turned into a yellow cab in which I interviewed them in.  "Welcome to my cab.  What's your name?"  They giggled.  The only proof I have of the silliness is what I tucked away in my pocket to pull out when they are older.

 

I am sure *this* precious time won't last forever (their "must-have" holiday item is the ipod) and that's why I'm bottling *this* up for myself tonight.  I will dip my toes into this magical memory when all three of them are ignoring me for the text messages on their phones.  Because, duh, I will soooooo be driving them to their senior year at Cleveland Country High.  Where they will be labeled as "pick-ups."

Last Updated on Monday, 02 November 2009 23:38
 

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# DE Heather 2009-11-02 22:44
What a wonderful way to keep your adventures close to their heart. And don't worry, they'll still talk to you when the cell phones are clutched in their hands...and may even surprise you with the sheer joy of jumping on a trampoline (with said cell phone)
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# Pauline 2009-11-02 22:47
Haha.... I totally thought of your beautiful girls at the circus (imagining them as my own as teens) texting BUT still smiling in your presence. It's seems SO foreign to me Heather. Does it all change when they get involved with technology? We don't even use our Nintendo DS...but my kids are still young.
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# DE Heather 2009-11-02 22:55
The first little bit it does as it is so new to them. My younger one got her cell phone about a month ago (and her DS not long before that) so I could keep better track of her in the 'hood. The first week she was obsessed, but now she often forgets it and I have to remind her to take it with her. Texts & calls from her friends go unanswered. Now my older one is better-she can multi task, I don't often like that its always with her, but she does put it away when I ask her. Truth be told I love watching her text, the screen lights up her face & I can see her smile such a geniune smile to one of her friends.
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# Pauline 2009-11-02 23:01
There's nothing better than a genuine smile.

Did she question the crazy lady across from her at the circus that asked, "Are you talking to your friends on that texting thingy?"

Can you believe that I have never texted? Or... responded to a voice mail because I hate accessing the VM on my phones. I have much to learn.
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# DE Heather 2009-11-02 23:48
LOL, no questions :O)

I have to admit before she started texting I never texted at all. I am starting to get into the swing of it. As for VM on phones, because most of the time when clients call me I am unavailable I have to use the VM feature, it isn't bad, just hard to understand some people some times.

Anytime you have questions, she will be happy to answer them for you :O)
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# JulieBouf 2009-11-02 23:50
I love that they play along with you! While my daughter does like to use her imagination, it has to be "her". Only 4 and she already loves to tell me when I'm wrong or being too silly, so I'm afraid if I tried to transport us she would just use it as an opportunity to show me how much smarter she is than me. Luckily she hasn't told me that in so many words yet, but she does take our trips to gymnastics as an opportunity to tell me all about how she knows everything; she knows SO much; she is SO smart. Obviously, she does not suffer from self-esteem issues.
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# Pauline 2009-11-02 23:53
Oh Julie.... you got to love THAT confidence in a 4 yr old. Just listening to their stories is enough to make you smile, no?
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# Julie B. 2009-11-03 19:36
I had to stop back to share my car conversation from today with you. I tried. I really did.

As we were driving home with woods on both sides as its getting dark:

Me:Ohh, we're driving through the spooky forest.
K: Mom, no we are not.
Me: Katie, I'm just pretending.
K: No, we are not pretending.

So, back to the conversations about why did they crash a spaceship into the moon to look for water; why do we hiccup? how do we breath?; what makes it rain?

Unfortunately, I am more of the creative type. I don't know how I sired this child. While I loved, loved, loved math - I detested science!
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# Elizabeth 2009-11-03 01:33
I thought I would hate driving my kids in every which direction. It's turned out to be the opposite. We've had the best discussions of FDR and polio, the Titanic, etc.

I think that the forced time in the car makes us actually chat and discuss things without other distractions.
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# Kelley 2009-11-03 02:14
Ahhhh, but when they get older you can do TERRIBLE! HORRIBLE!! things like Rick Rolling them in the car or quoting Charlie the Unicorn... 'Its a TREE Charlie! A Tree!'

It is immensely entertaining...
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# LaskiGal 2009-11-03 02:22
There are days we just drive . . . and when we do, he belts out the most glorious rendition of ABCs I've ever heard.

I soak it all in.

Fleeting as it is . . .
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# Scary Momy 2009-11-03 06:15
It all goes way too fast, doesn't it?

When I kiss Lily goodbye at the bus stop and she gives me the hand, I get a glimpse of my teenager to be. It's frightening.
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# traci 2009-11-03 08:35
It's nothing until you make it magic. Aren't those the little things that let you pat yourself on the back and say 'job well done, mom.'
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# HaB 2009-11-03 11:48
My husband now take our daughter to sitter, as he now has a job with afternoon and evenings hours. This post makes me wish that I had not wished away that time together - because I had to leave earlier for work or that some days it would make me late. It was just her and I, in the car, for about 7 minutes on the way to the sitter. Some mornings it was all screaming, but most mornings it was giggles & smiles. I didn't realize it until now, that I miss that time in the car with Madaline.
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# Ed 2009-11-03 12:55
I realized quite some time ago that this whole stay-at-home parent thing is a misnomer. I live in my car.

It can make for some very creative ways to spend quality family time.
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# tyne 2009-11-03 14:44
You are so right. I have the same entry level Honda with four carseats smushed in. On the occassion that I remember to turn off the dvd players that are haphazardly velcro'd to the seats and the talk radio that gets me fired up, it is a magical time. Playing "I spy" and pretending to fly over bridges and racing trains as the autumn leaves create a glorious tunnel for that car that is my second home!

Love you, P, you inspire me!
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# Jenera 2009-11-03 14:52
We take drives quite frequently and it's always fun for us.
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# Kat 2009-11-03 16:24
My boy's bus driver frequently forgets my son is on the bus and drives right past our corner even though I am STANDING THERE WAITING. ???? Then he slams on the breaks as Joey tells him "That was my block!" Makes me so mad. If the bus driver does it again today I may just pop him one. ;)
Way to turn a negative into a positive, OHMommy! :)
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# Mayhem & Moxie 2009-11-03 17:21
Yikes! Is this what I have to look forward to with my kids starting school and riding the bus? If it is, you definitely won't be the only one driving their kids to school their senior year.
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# Loukia 2009-11-03 22:54
Just lovely, Pauline... it's the little moments like that that make such great memories, huh? For both the parents and the children, I am sure. I sometimes have the best conversations with my 4 year old while I'm driving him around, and both my boys and I actually sing and dance, yes, dance, in the car all the time! I only sometimes get very embarrassed when another car sees me! :)
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# Jill 2009-11-03 23:00
I'm lucky that the bus pulls into my driveway every single morning, and drops my kids off every single afternoon (when they don't have activities) back in my driveway...

As we have a driver, it's no longer "alone" time with just me and the kids whenever we're in the car. Sometimes I forget he's there and I sing with the kids to whatever song is on the radio... though most of the time it's just hearing the stories about their day - and breaking up the bickering that the girls do whenever there's silence... :)

Reason #49601835 why I'm looking forward to moving Stateside again... soon.
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# ryan 2009-11-04 08:50
I had the shit beat out of me 3-5 days a week on the bus for years by older kids. I am not sure if it was character building or what. In the end I learned how to stand up for myself and got the upper hand. So when I think of the bus for the kids I am pretty quick to want to keep them off of it. But at the same time maybe it was a good thing I had those experiences. Who knows. Maybe mix things up and invite a bully along on some of the drives. Just to see what they do :)

I am kidding of course.
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