The day my heart exploded. PDF Print E-mail
Written by OHmommy   
Wednesday, 11 May 2011 06:34

There are days when I leave the room shaking my head and wondering what I'm doing wrong. No one listens to me so I emphasize my point by facing the wall and screaming, "WHY CAN'T YOU GUYS JUST GET ALONG?" It makes all of you stop arguing, if just for a second, and someone replies that you are listening but that he took something and won't give it back and that's hers not his but was actually yours first. On good days when I'm feeling especially witty I call one of my siblings on the phone and pretend to argue with them to demonstrate how silly it sounds. "You are a bad bad big old bad brother! GIVE IT BACK TO ME! I don't like you. Anymore!" I yell into the phone. The comedic act never fails to bring a smile to everyone. "My wish is for you three to get along and work as a team." I tell you often.


Yesterday I witnessed one of my proudest moments.


Naturally, it started with a sibling argument over how-long-it-too-long for a turn on the trampoline. "That's not fair! She's is totally taking a too long time." "Mama... it's my turn." The fighting escalated to the point of Feenie throwing sandals off of the deck and into the forest behind the house, solidifying everyone's return back inside for some quiet time. "IF YOU GUYS CAN'T GET ALONG, YOU ARE DONE PLAYING!" I shouted. Barefoot and angry, the three of you pouted all the way home.  And, of course, troubled followed us. Somehow Feenie managed to find the world's largest splinter and successfully got it lodged deep inside her heel.


The removal was difficult and I was on the verge of driving to urgent care.


That's when you guys went into crisis mode. You consoled your sister, brought her pillows and stuffed animals, held her hand, massaged her leg and promised her everything would be okay. I could not have calmed the wild banshee down without you. "You keep massaging her leg and I will go grab her shark!" "Okay! Sounds good. Don't forget her unicorn - she loves it!" Everything was going great until the ice cream truck turned onto the street and both of you fled chanting "ICE CREAM". I hung my head in shame. "Eighty-seven. Eighty-eight. Eighty-nine." You counted through the change jar and flagged down the ice cream truck. I felt totally defeated. The splinter wasn't budging. And now I was on my own wondering how I raised such selfish humans. Until.


Minutes later both of you returned home, with a treat for your sister.



Splinter out!


And my heart exploded. You guys will be fine. Just fine.

Last Updated on Wednesday, 11 May 2011 11:39


# Miss Britt 2011-05-11 07:31
Awwww. I love this.
# adam 2011-05-11 07:34
Amazing kids you have there. Me and my brothers would have pushed the splinter deeper and taunted the injured wig our sweet treats
# tracey 2011-05-11 08:06
Mine did, too. And now I am going to go yell at my own kids asking why they don't buy each other ice cream.
# Jaime 2011-05-11 08:10
I love those kids. Congrats, Mama; well done.
# Jaime 2011-05-11 08:11
I love those kids. Congrats Mama; well done!
# Erin 2011-05-11 08:13
My mom always told us that our siblings are the only teammates that we will have that are never allowed to quit, might as well get along. Your kids are already a great little team :)
# Pauline 2011-05-11 19:04
Oh that's a good one. I am totally stealing it and adding it to my repertoire. Makes sense!
# PolPrairieMama 2011-05-11 08:46
Oh, I teared up reading that. I can completely feel your pride in your children with this moment. I could see how your heart would explode from that. How absolutely precious. This is defintely a moment that will be treasured forever in your family, I can tell. It would make an amazing wedding day toast, no?

I have also agree. My brother and I have recently come to the conclusion that nobody in the world will ever truly get either of us. Not even my husband and one day his wife. Not even our parents. There is a magical bond with siblings. My parents used to tell us "No matter what in life, you will only have each other. One day, we will go to Heaven. And then, it will be you two."

God bless your children. And you are an amazing mother to raise them to be so kind to one another.

Na razie...
# Pauline 2011-05-11 19:06
Awwww.... thanks. Once in a blue moon they get a long. It's a work in progress and this moment really tickled me pink.
# Candi 2011-05-11 08:56
Awww, that is so sweet. I can't see my kids doing that. Good for you!!!
# haniaski 2011-05-11 09:23
well done!:D
# lceel 2011-05-11 09:32
I know it's a challenge to take the "10,000 foot view" when you're in the day and dealing with things of the moment - but you just need to remember that you have three GREAT KIDS - and they ARE kids. Just kids. And they're learning. Slowly, it would seem at time. Not very well, at other times. But they are going to be SUCH great people when they grow up - and it's because of their parenting, and their history and culture and their Grandparents. Let us NOT forget their Grandparents.

Your kids are SO lucky.

And they're Good.

So elevate. Take that 10,000 foot view once in a while. You'll be amazed how relaxing it is - for you ... and for them.
# Pauline 2011-05-11 19:07
Wow. That's very powerful Lou. And something I will think about next time I feel overwhelmed. Which will probably be as early as tomorrow.

Thanks so much for your kind words.
# Traci 2011-05-12 07:21
What a perfect thought. I'm absolutely going to take the 10,000 ft view.
# Renny 2011-05-11 10:35
Man, I don't know if it is my current lack of sleep, your excellent story telling, or your wonderfully sweet kids, or maybe a combination of all three.

But this post definitely gave me the weepies. And it made me miss my own siblings, whom I will be seeing in about a week!! Hooray for families!
# Pauline 2011-05-11 19:08
I will be seeing my sibling this weekend too! I can't wait for us to be under the same roof. It's been too long.

Enjoy your siblings Renny!
# Renny 2011-05-12 11:56
Oh I will! Have a wonderful time with yours as well!
# kristacular 2011-05-11 10:39
# Scary Mommy 2011-05-11 10:55
So stinking sweet. I love.
# Loukia 2011-05-11 11:11
My heart explodes the most when I see the sweet interactions between my children. I could literally, sometimes, just die, and I'd be okay. It's the best thing on earth, to witness. The love. SIGH!
# Laurie 2011-05-11 11:36
love, love, love this story! I see a lot of that at our house too... moments where I think I might explode, followed by sweetness that melts my heart. :) LOVED your pictures too!!
# Pauline 2011-05-11 19:09
Thanks. I actually asked "Can I take a picture of you three so I can remember this very moment forever?" And they said "Of course, Mama!"
# Bite Buff 2011-05-11 14:17
That's so sweet!
# Anti-Supermom 2011-05-11 14:35
You are doing just great, obviously! I think you have nothing to worry about :)

Super sweet story!
# Traci 2011-05-11 14:37
I use the sibling squabbles as an example for me and Tony arguing. I save all the Dbag name calling for behind closed doors, but I am of the belief that arguing and reconciling for IN FRONT of the kids. I equate it with 'you and your sibling argue, and you work it out. You still love it each other and you still get past it!'
# Pauline 2011-05-11 19:11
That's so smart! And it makes a lot of sense. A lot of sense.

My husband is an only child and fails at the art of argumentation. It's almost funny to watch him argue. He's never ever witnessed his parents fight and obviously has never had siblings to argue with.
# dysfunctionalmom 2011-05-11 17:17
That is THE BEST. So sweet!
# Elaine 2011-05-11 19:55
I love it when they prove to us that we are doing SOMETHING right. ;) Bravo to those awesome kids of yours!
# sarah 2011-05-12 01:31
to sweet. You are raising some fantastic little people. They totally melt my heart!
# Managed Chaos 2011-05-12 07:54
This makes my heart smile. So big.
# Jessica 2011-05-13 12:21
I have faith!! This is THE sweetest story. Thank you for sharing. OMG love.
# Weekend Cowgirl 2011-05-13 17:03
That was the sweetest story...
# anymommy 2011-05-15 23:58
They totally will be fine. So darling.

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Pauline Karwowski.

Is a self proclaimed globe trotting, minivan driving, SAHM stiletto ho.

Happily married mother to 3 Cleveland natives: Jay the son, Lola the daughter, and Fifi the banshee.

Now in Chicago, IL.

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